Pour Yourself Out

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Pour yourself outLife.  It has a lot of power, doesn’t it?  When was the last time you actually took a few moments and thought about what that word means.  Life…….what does it mean to you? To those around you? To those in your family and friend circles?  Does it share the same meaning?  Have the same value?  Resemble the same tenets of your Faith?  What does it look like?  Has it always looked the way that it does now, or has it changed?

Life has a way of extracting the breath out of us.  The condition of our current day world has a direct impact on the condition of our souls.  Thereby, it has the power to add boldness to our living or extract that boldness directly from us.  Have you thought about that?  On any typical day, what does your schedule look like, what does your home look like, your children, your marriage, your finances, your health, your friendships, your morals, your worship, quiet time, quality time?  Where do those things fall in line…….life has the power to extract the breath out of us. And, yet, we have the power to change that at any given moment, and we choose to remain silent and still.

Have you ever considered why you exist in such a time as this?  God knew when He created your being that you would walk in the latter days, that you would see the chaos, the depravity, the hatred.  He knew you would walk in the days when our Christian principles would be removed from the foundation of our American blessing, that you would live to see prayer removed, God removed, right to worship and speak the name of Jesus removed.  He knew you would live in days of abortion, gay marriage, pornography, false doctrine, war, disease, moral depravity, family separation, loss of respect for what is good, noble, moral and pure (Philippians 4:8).  He knew that.  When we cry out to God for our family, for our children, for our Nation, do we ask Him to send someone to turn that around?  OR……do we realize that He’s already done that.  He sent you. He sent me.

Do you realize that within you, as a child of God, you have the power within you to make the winds of change move in a mighty way that could cause the revival this world needs?  It is not accident that you exist in such a time as this.

It’s time we stop asking God to make us comfortable in these circumstances and ask Him to give us Courage to stand up, speak up and make change happen.

The Bible is not a recording of history as in ……….that may have happened years and years ago, but………  It is the living and breathing Word of God that has existed for years past and is walking off the pages in our lives in much the same manner as it did years ago.  God had it recorded then as a warning for us now, that this too will come to your doorstep.  It’s a manual. A tool for our families to prepare for the battle that is raging around us and yet, we don’t open it.  When we purchase something at the store and it requires direction in order to operate and function with ease, we read that don’t we? Why? Because we want to know how it will work, and what it will do for us, with the least amount of trouble.  Why then, when we have a manual for life, the Bible, are we choosing to leave it closed? Unopened and unused when it will tell us directly how things will work, what will happen, and how we can apply it make our lives more functional?

Instead, we fall victim to habits, hangups, hurts, addictions, disease of body, mind and soul and consider our hands tied.  Not true.  Life will not be what God intended it to be for you, for me, or for this world until we have the Courage and Faith that gives us the Boldness to speak up.  It’s time to stop asking God to make us comfortable in these circumstances and ask God to make us Courageous.

In Christ, we can ask Him to move the mountain for us, or we can ask Him for the strength we need to climb to the top of that mountain ourselves.

The Bible says in Acts 4:31, “When they had prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken, and all of them were filled with the Holy Spirit and continued to speak messages from God boldly”.

When Daniel stood in the Lion’s Den and faced the lions – he prayed God not me, you…..he poured himself out and the Holy Spirit was able to fill him. (Daniel 6).

When Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego  stood in the furnace engulfed with flames – they prayed God not me, you….and poured themselves out so the Holy Spirit would walk with them and fill them. (Daniel 3).

When Joseph was sold into slavery and betrayed by his family he prayed, God not me, you….and poured himself out and the Holy Spirit filled him and blessed him. (Genesis 37).

When David faced Goliath, he prayed, God not me, you…and poured himself out and the Holy Spirit filled him with courage and boldness. (I Samuel 17).

Life will take the breath out of us if we allow it.  But if you pour yourself out and allow the Holy Spirit to fill you back up, there will no room for you to fall victim to the things that are out of control any longer.  God will empower you with the boldness to conquer anything or anyone that forms against you.

Depression – Anxiety – Addictions – Disability – Disorder – Habits – Hangups – Hurts – Abuse – Secrets – Family – Children – Marriage – Finance – Stress – Worry – Mental Health – Physical Health – Worry – Work – School – Dating – Purity – Fear – WHAT IS IT?  Pour it out. Let God pour His Spirit in.

God can give you everything you need, and more, to battle whatever it is that has found you empty. Be Blessed as you prepare to make Change happen and let God move in your life in a mighty way.

 

Journey of Faith

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bicycle journey of faithStarting over. New beginnings. Each new step in the decision to start something new, make a change, make a move or walk away from one thing and toward another takes faith.

Each new step brings challenges and obstacles as well as opportunities for success, and yes, failure. Change takes risk. New journeys in self discovery mean risk. It requires an act of faith – an act of trust by which we commit ourselves to someone or something. Faith is simply the belief in the object in which we put our trust.

Faith is so important that it is mentioned over 300 times in the Bible. Abraham was a man of great faith. We see in the beginning in Genesis 15:6 that, “Abraham believed in the Lord…”. He placed his faith in the Lord to carry him through whatever journey he was asked to walk through and had the commitment to continue that walk knowing that the Lord would see him through the obstacles and challenges along that pathway.

God asked Abraham to leave everything and everyone that he knew and found comfort in and take the next steps necessary, in faith, that would lead him to new promises of even better blessings in both things and people.

What is it that God is asking you to leave in order for you to find the blessings in your life that are promised to you, if only you would have the faith to make that change?

Genesis 12:1, 2 says that, “the Lord will bless you AND that you will be a blessing” when speaking to Abraham and to us.

God is the ultimate change agent. Change happens when we place our faith in the object in which we trust. Change comes, when we are willing to grow and be stretched beyond our comfort zones. What is it that God is asking you to grow beyond? What are your next steps in your journey that He is waiting for you to take so that He can lead you from where you are to where He wants you to be?

What is it that you need to change? The first step in change is saying, “yes” to God and taking that first step in faith on toward your spiritual journey that will change the course of your life. Abraham said “yes” to God when He called him to gather his family and possessions to start the long journey into the land that God promised. Abraham’s journey was not easy. Your journey will not be easy. But He will take you on this journey if you allow Him, and help you become a brand new person.

“Faith doesn’t change my circumstances. It changes me.” – John Maxwell

What are your hurts? Your hangups? Your habits? Lay them down and start your new journey in Faith……..

RECOVERY by Brooke McCollum

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Recovery

Life is not as easy as it seemed

And the weight of this world has me

Crying on my knees.

A weight so heavy there feels like no escaping.

Questions that haunt and tear me apart in my head.

Why do I not love myself?

But there’s a good, good Father and He tells me:

 

My darling, can’t you see?

I am here with you, so come be free with me.

Come find my peace.

Come running to my arms.

I knew you before you were born.

I chose you through marvelous grace.

Come be free.

No looking back.

You are my beloved.

Come and be free with me.

 

And I sit here crying but I know He hears me

Because tears are prayers when you cannot find the words to speak.

My God is with me like a mighty warrior

And I no longer have to be afraid.

I choose to be a warrior,

Not a worrier because

I am His and He is mine.

You have promised me to bring

Victory over worry.

You are more than

Any mistake I have ever made.

I am searching to find a recovery.

My recovery is found in You.

 

You are here with me.

You love me every day.

I am free, and

My father knows me by my name.

I am running to your arms,

No looking back.

Your reckless grace is

My greatest hope.

I want to be buried in Your grace,

Because there is no greater place.

Help me to hold myself accountable to a standard of

Grace and not perfection.

When days grow dark and weary

I will trust in You.

I no longer have to feel

Ashamed

Unworthy

Fearful

Unimportant

Or insecure.

You are my security.

There is no else but You.

The world is grabbing at my feet,

But the chains are nowhere near as strong

Compared to You.

My shame tells me I am flawed and undeserving,

But my Father’s grace tells me although I am flawed,

I am forgiven and

I am cherished.

And perfect love casts out all fear,

No one can touch me now.

My God is for me,

No one can stand against me.

You are my recovery.

 

The journey is long and hard but

The God of Heaven is faithful

And there has not been a single day

That I have been alone.

I choose to accept my inevitable flaws

Because being beautiful is not defined by others.

Beauty is defined through the eyes of my Creator.

I choose to love myself.

I am not here because I needed another day,

I am here because someone out there needs me.

Storms don’t last forever

and although the oceans may rage

there is no being afraid.

When I was brought to my low and felt empty

You showed me that You are enough.

You are my recovery.

 

I am here with you.

Come to me and find your peace.

Come be free.

Come running to my arms.

I love you.

Come dance and spin around.

Come find your hope in Me.

You are beautiful.

You are the daughter of a star breather.

I know because I made you.

I will never leave you alone.

Remember to whom you belong.

Come be free.

Come find Me.

Come be free.

Come with me, my beloved.

Can’t you see?

I am your recovery.

Where God Plants You

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Pastor John Hagee reminds us, “Where God plants you, is where He will bless you and provide for you”.

I have seen that in my life over and over again as many of you have.  Looking back over the past 50 years I can see where my journey has led me through times that felt like I would never recover, and times that I felt like I had all the strength in the world to do whatever task was in front of me.  But in both, God knew exactly where I was and blessed me with mercy, patience, and grace.  He provided me with unconditional love where I felt there was none to be had, strength to persevere in the toughest conditions, and hope to move forward knowing He had everything in His control.

Over the past few years, I have heard stories of individuals, young and old, who have found themselves lost in the cracks of life and unsure of how they were going to ever move forward and grow from their circumstances.  People are hurting. Pain discriminates against no one.  It falls upon each of us at some point in our lives.

Just in the past week, people have shared these cracks of life with me.  These are just surface cracks some that will allow them to move forward fairly quickly, yet others cracks are so deep that they are caverns in their soul that shed very little light into finding any way out, ever.

These cracks have names. You know them well, you live with them day in and day out.

Abuse – Addictions – Adultery – Alcohol – Anger – Anxiety – Bitterness- Bullying – Cancer – Chronic Pain -Co-dependency – Depression – Death – Divorce – Drugs – Eating Disorders – Emotions – Family – Grief – Guilt- Loss – Hallucinations – Homosexuality – Illness – Marriage – Loss – Low Self-Esteem – Non-Forgiveness – Poor Self-Image -Pornography – Rejection – Resentment – Self-Injury – Stress – Suicide Attempt or Completion – Worthlessness

Can I tell you?  Where God plants you, is where He will bless you and provide for you.  You answer, how can God bless me and provide for me in any of these cracks of life?

Because, whatever you may believe or wherever you find yourself in life, it does not dismiss the fact that when you were conceived, God knew your name. He knew what was ahead of you and He knows what lies behind you.  Yes. Regardless of whether you know Him or not, He knows you as found in Scripture in Psalm 139: 13-16,  

“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.”

Did He hope for you to hit the cracks and/or get stuck? No.

His plan for you is found in Scripture in Jeremiah 29:11,

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

How do I know this is a plan that can work for you?  Because, Scripture says so in John 3:16,

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”

Beloved, that’s you.  That’s me.  Life is full of pivotal moments.  Moments that find us standing at a crossroad in which only we can choose the direction we will take from that moment of impact.  Which way will you go from here?

Can I tell you?  Where God plants you, is where He will bless you and provide for you.

He has you at this pivotal moment.  You are in the cracks of life.  You have this choice to stay in the crack, or reach for a way out.  My prayer is that you will have the strength to stand in your cracks and face whatever is challenging you with this assurance, that God will bless you and provide for you.

Reach out and learn to face these battles, obstacles, and cracks in life with faith in God that He will see you through. Faith is the key that unlocks the power of God in our lives. It enables us to live by His promises and experience personally, His blessing in our lives.

      Philippians 4:7

Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

Isaiah 41:10 

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Philippians 4:19 

 “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”

What is Co-Dependency?

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Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. Co-dependent behavior is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behavior. It sets its roots in dysfunctional relationships that do not have personal, emotional, relational or physical boundaries.

Co-dependent people often have an/a:

  • Exaggerated sense of responsibility for the actions and reactions of others
  • Unhealthy dependence on relationships creating fear of abandonment or rejection
  • Tendency to do more than their share……..all the time
  • Extreme need for approval and recognition from others
  • Compelling need to control others
  • Chronic anger
  • Difficulty identifying feelings, lack of trust in both self and others
  • Difficulty adjusting to change
  • Lying or dishonesty
  • Problems with intimacy/boundaries
  • Poor communication
  • Difficulty making decisions
  • Confuse love and pity and feel the need to help or rescue others.

If you would like more information or discuss your needs confidentially, please feel free to book an appointment.  If however, you would like to learn more information about co-dependency on your own, you may purchase a DVD under our Outreach section under Courageous Living.  Learning new ways of behavior can help you live a more balanced and healthy life thereby, improving your overall attitude and relationships.

What is Self-Harm?

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It is important to recognize that self-harm does not discriminate against gender, race, culture, and economic background. Adults, Teens, Children, both Male and Female struggle with this issue in our culture today. It is a behavior that over time becomes habitual, chronic and even repetitive in an effort to cope with an overwhelming and distressing feeling or situation.

An epidemic of self-injury is occurring among pre-teens and adolescents ages 12 to 19. Over 10% of teenagers are thought to have at least experimented with self-injury/harm/mutilation.

Children, teens and young adults engaging in self-harm behaviors, such as cutting, scratching and burning in order to manage strong and intense emotions, can regain a sense of control and find new peace of mind through exploring their motives and adopting new coping skills.  Self-harm behaviors are habit forming, physically destructive, and can lead to suicidal thoughts or behaviors.  The path to recovery is in developing strong, caring relationships, avoiding secrets, seeking counsel, and learning new ways of calming oneself.

Most commonly, self-harming behavior is a coping mechanism to deal with emotional pain, stress, or trauma.

Being observant can often uncover early signs of self-injury:

  • An abnormal number of cuts/burns on the wrists, arms, legs, hips or stomach (this is not an exhaustive description however, marks can be present on any part of the body)
  • Wearing of long sleeves and pants even in warm weather
  • Frequent ‘accidents’ that cause physical injury
  • Evidence that your teenager’s friends are self-harming
  • Finding razors, knives. matches in strange locations
  • Abnormal or excessive amounts of time in their bedroom or bathroom, or alone in general

Please call or book an appointment to discuss your confidential needs.  Or, if you prefer to learn about this prior to making an appointment, there is a DVD called “Why Kids Cut: Exploring the Motive and Goals of Self-Harm” found under our Outreach tab under Courageous Living.

The Empty Nest

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The morning was quiet, the sun began poking it’ rays through the trees in our yard, the birds were chirping and the small, dull roar of the interstate miles away could be barely heard. My attention was drawn to a small wren who kept flying around frantically as I began to rock in the porch rockers and I noticed, she, or he, was trying to tend to a nest that was just above my head in a big Boston fern hanging on the post. As she began to chirp more and more intentionally, another wren began to fly in and out of the porch, landing on different rockers and brick postings as if to be sending warnings. As I left the rocker to step away from the porch to get a better look, I realized that in that nest above my head, were two baby wrens, skin still visible, yet freshly covered by feathers, but strong enough to begin fluttering about their nest.

As I stepped back from their nest, the adult wrens took turns flying in and out of the nest to feed their young and care for them. The adult wren, however, upon sharing a bit of nutrition, began to push around one of the wrens so that it began to flutter around the nest and out onto the fern leaves. As she continued to push the little ones, I realized that today was the day that they took flight and left their nest. They were being taught how to fly and take their place in the environment that was theirs to begin exploring.

My thoughts were then turned to our heavenly Father, who cares for us with such intention, hope, and aspirations to fly on our own into a world that He has created for us to explore. What that feels like to a parent, some of us can truly identify with, and others have yet to experience that. But God………what must that feel like for Him as He knew our name before we were even a thought in our parent’s minds. Scripture says in Psalm 139: 15-18

15 “You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion! 16 You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I began to breathe. Every day was recorded in your book!

17-18 How precious it is, Lord, to realize that you are thinking about me constantly! I can’t even count how many times a day your thoughts turn toward me.[a] And when I waken in the morning, you are still thinking of me!”

As I watched these little wrens find their strength to leave the nest, I felt the emotion in being a parent myself of four beautiful daughters who are all taking flights of their own. Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6) came to mind not only as I pray for my own children, but in recognition that God Himself, weaves that into His thoughts for humanity as He watches us all take our own flight to find our place in this world.

When He, God, takes place in our hearts and begins to nourish us with scripture and comes to our side to hear every thought in our mind, He makes Himself available not only for a moment, but for an eternity. There is a hymn, “In the Garden” that says in the second verse, “He speaks, and the sound of His voice, is so sweet the birds hush their singing, and the melody that He gave to me, within my heart is ringing. And He walks with me, and He talks with me, And He tells me I am His own, and the joy we share as we tarry there, None other has ever known.”

This is a relationship, with such love and hopes for each of us to grow strong and take flight into this world, and with that, fly freely with no intimidation or worry. However, since the Garden of Eden, humanity has adopted a free will. That free will (sinful nature) has created flight patterns in much of humanity that have led us farther and farther away from the safety of provision of our heritage. That heritage of saving grace, “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith–and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God” found in Ephesians 2:8 seems to be a faint whisper in minds of many who choose to ignore the sound of God’s voice as He sends warnings through the heavens that He is returning soon to claim His own.

“But understand this that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power,” 2 Timothy 3:1-5. “For nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom, and there will be famines and earthquakes in various places,” Matthew 24:7.

As we wake each day to the fall of humanity, as we witness those turning their backs on Scripture, Prayer, Marriage between a man and a woman, and falling into the clutches of false religions, oh how He (God) must sigh a heavy sigh that His children have left the nest and have fallen away. Again, how His heart must long for that time in the garden alone with each of us.

May our prayer be His prayer as we go forward each day in hope for those that have fallen from the nest and taken flight into dangerous and destructive patterns that they will hear that still small voice God’s voice calling them home, directing them to return to their heritage that has been bought with a price for their freedom, their joy, and their eternal gain………

Experiencing a Crisis or Trauma?

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Crisis counseling generally takes place over the course of several weeks. Crisis intervention is focused on minimizing the stress of the event, providing emotional support and improving the individual’s coping strategies in the immediate circumstance.

A crisis typically refers not to a traumatic event or experience, but to how an individual responds to the situation.

Events that trigger a crisis can run the gamut of life experience from developmental hurdles to natural disasters or the death of a loved one.

  • Events may include, but are not limited to:
  • Going through puberty and adolescence
  • Adjustment to marriage or divorce
  • Blended family
  • Birth of a child
  • Adjustment in school or work with related peer struggles or bullying

Trauma, on the other hand, is generally categorized as either a single-incident or event or a repeated circumstance or event creating long-term trauma.

One-time traumas include such things as car accidents, hurricanes, plane crashes, rape, robbery, or the death of a loved one that is family, friend, or even a co-worker. These types of traumas can result from natural causes or can be deliberately inflicted by another person.

A long term trauma is the result of a prolonged, horrific experience, such as an individual who is repeatedly abused, or has experienced violence such as combat. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a frequent result of long-term trauma.

Signs of Trauma:

  • Emotional, cognitive, and physical disruptions in normal, routine behavior
  • Anxiety, depression, are fearful, and withdrawn.
  • Recurring panic attacks
  • Experience concentration problems, have problems remembering things, and/or feel distracted much of the time.
  • In extreme cases, people experience flashbacks of the event, nightmares, amnesia, and intense feelings of guilt.
  • Physically, many people have eating and sleeping problems.
  • They are regularly exhausted and often, they develop unexplained chronic pain.

If you, or a loved one, is or has experienced any signs of crisis or trauma, please feel free to book a confidential appointment and we will be happy to speak with you.

What are boundaries, and are they biblical?

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Healthy boundaries = Healthy relationships: Having unhealthy or poorly defined boundaries in relationships creates dysfunction and even chaos in families, friendships, and work or school relationships. By establishing clear, personal boundaries, we define ourselves in relation to others. In order to do this, it is necessary to identify and respect our own needs, feelings, opinions, and rights. If defines the personal property line, if you will, on who is allowed in our personal lives and who is not. Healthy boundaries define expectations and show respect for self and others.

Biblically speaking, boundaries are relative to self-control. If left unchecked, our human nature and desires will attempt to control others and (Titus 2:12). Boundaries can be used in both healthy and unhealthy ways. In order to determine which boundaries are proper, ask yourself, “what is your motive in doing what you are doing/”. Proper boundaries aid individuals in taking responsibility for their actions and reactions, thereby establishing proper balance and healthy boundaries.

Boundaries can be physical as they define who can touch us, and who cannot. They also define how physically close other individuals are allowed to approach us, or not.

Boundaries are emotional as they define where our feelings end and another individual’s begin. Do we take responsibility for our own feelings, or do we take on the responsibility of another individual’s feelings and neglect our own? Can we say no when we need to. Can we ask for what we need or do we compulsively attempt to meet the needs of others. The answers to these questions define personal property lines and how we interact with others, and how we allow them to interact with us.

Boundaries can be too rigid and can create unnecessary tension when misunderstood.  Those whose boundaries are too rigid have the tendency to shut others out of their lives.  They can often appear distant, and do not like to talk about their feelings or show any emotion.  They do not like to ask for help and most often do not allow anyone to get too close, physically or emotionally.  Individuals with rigid boundaries rarely let anyone into their personal lives.

Boundaries can be too loose and can have misinterpreted meanings.  Individuals with loose boundaries often put their hands on strangers or let others touch them inappropriately.  They can be sexually promiscuous and often confuse sex and love.  They can be driven by the need for sexual relationships and get too close too fast.  In most circumstances these individuals take on the feelings of others and can become emotionally overwhelmed and burdened.  They often need constant reassurance, expect others to read their minds and think that they can read the minds of others.  Yes means no, and no means yes, which creates further confusion in boundaries.  Often, these individuals lead chaotic lives, full of drama and have trouble with keeping secure and trusting relationships.

Examples of the necessity of boundaries:

Marriage: Marital boundaries keep sex and intimacy within the relationship while respecting one another and the sanctity of the relationship. Violating these boundaries will quickly destroy trust and consequences will begin to evolve in the relationship.

Parenting: Children need limits and boundaries for protection (Proverbs 22:6). Boundaries allow children to develop an identity of their own, separate from their parent or caregivers within the safety of their family. Without developing this identity as a separate being, individuals can vanish, or become enmeshed into other people’s lives fail to establish any differences, identity or boundaries of their own.

Boundaries teach us to regard one another as valuable. God uses boundaries to allow us to recognize differences in people, how to appreciate the differences and how to avoid the differences that have the potential in creating trouble for us. In short, boundaries limit destructive behaviors, and that is why both God and society have laws and consequences for those who choose to ignore boundaries (Romans 13:1-4).

 

 

 

 

Counseling vs Coaching

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We’ve had questions in the past that have suggested that there are more than a few people who are seeking counseling, but aren’t sure on what steps to take. This blog post is designed to help explain the differences between both counseling and coaching in hopes of helping you to identify which service would best fit your needs. Both counseling and coaching are important in bringing transformational life changes to the client however, they are not the same. Let’s look at the differences:

What is Christian Counseling?

  • Counseling usually involves some area of disorder, pathology, or dysfunction that essentially disables the counselee in one or more areas of life.
  • The counselor tends to set the agenda and plan for counseling.
  • Counseling is more focused on solving painful problems from the past.
  • It seeks relief and healing through a process of recovery.
  • Helps build techniques and coping skills to stabilize life.
  • Develops healthy emotions and relationships.

What is Christian Coaching?

  • Coaching forms a partnership that seeks to empower and equip people.
    Individuals are essentially healthy and able to work with the coach to develop a plan for growth.
  • Individuals usually set their own agenda and their own goals.
  • Coaching is more about finding ways to reach your maximum  potential.
  • It motivates change, action, growth and achieving results.
  • Helps strategize ways effective in maximizing life.
  • Builds healthy patterns with accountability in power & success.

If you still aren’t sure what service suits you best, please feel free to contact us.  You can do so by visiting our contact page.